Pregnant? So soon? Why?

Well it’s officially official. I’m pregnant with baby #2. In fact I’ve been pregnant for 20 weeks. I’m half way done!

My daughter is one month shy of being a year and a half old. She’ll be a year and 9months old when baby #2 is born. So I’ll have 2 under 2.

And for some reason I keep getting the same questions. Why would you want a second already? Don’t you feel like that will take away from your daughter? Are you bored? Are you crazy?

I’m just over here like uhhh….. No I’m not crazy nor am I bored. But I have tons of love in my heart (and so does my husband) and we’re ready for baby #2. Also of course I don’t feel like I’m taking anything away from my daughter. Just because we’re growing our family doesn’t mean we’ll leave the family we already have behind. In fact part of growing our family means each and everyone of us will grow in our own ways. And guess what? That means so will our daughter. She’ll receive just as much love if not more as she already does.

Part of why we were ready for baby #2 is because we want our children to grow up together. Not just in the same house but as friends. My sister and I are 5 years apart and we’re close but one thing we know for sure is if we were even 2 years closer in age we’d be so much better of friends. My husband says he’s so far in age from his youngest sibling that even though they are close he’s definitely not as close as he could be if she had come just a few years sooner.

All in all what I’m trying to say is I wish people didn’t have so many opinions. Just congratulate me and my family and move on. Keep the comments to yourself. Better yet if you feel the need to comment then tell your mother your husband. Don’t take away a special moment like having another baby from someone.

Well it’s that time! Meet baby W #2 from the womb! Baby #2 is a sweet baby boy! He’s growing amazing and very healthy!

Talk soon,

Marena

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#momlife

Ah yes Mom life…. The never ending journey of growth!

Technically I became a mother the day I found out I was pregnant with my angel baby. I never expected my first mom life momemt to be mixed with such joy and sadness in such a short time. I knew I was pregnant for 2 weeks before I found out I had lost my baby. I then spent another 2 weeks of technically being pregnant and another month after that where I was no longer pregnant but my body felt like it was. I went from being so excited and ready to being a mom to wanting to crawl under a rock and never come out.

I talked with people and shared my sadness but I never truly told anyone how much pain I was in. Not even my husband. It was a pain that I just couldn’t explain. And honestly it was a pain I felt I deserved. Now don’t get me wrong I knew there was nothing I did wrong and sometimes these things happen. But all I could think was how it was MY body that couldn’t grow this baby and MY body rejected not anyone else’s. Mine! I read a few books and prayed a lot and I finally came to turns with everything. But even 2 years later I still have my moments where I fall back into that sadness and anger at myself.

But then I got pregnant with my daughter Kairi. I had a new mom life moment. One filled with joy and happiness. One that’s also filled with sleepy nights and cold meals. You know because if baby doesn’t sleep then I don’t sleep. Not to mention everyone’s gotta have food before I even get a moment to sit. But I wouldn’t change it for the world!

Then it leads into my new mom life moment! I officially got the all clear to try for another baby! Even with all the crazy in my life I’m excited to go at it again! Baby number 2 here we come!

Talk soon,

Marena

#ParentingAdvice

The biggest thing I’ve learned in the last year of being a parent is to relax. And I don’t mean relax as in take a nap or sit down. Although, those are good to do as well.

I know that’s pretty obvious but relaxing has been the hardest thing for me. When my daughter falls I jump up to check on her. When she cries I feel like I have to pick her up. When she calls out after waking up I feel like I need to get her immediately.

But in reality I don’t need to jump immediately. Children need to fall so they can learn to pick themselves up again. Crying is okay. She doesn’t need me to cuddle her every moment of her day. And crying allows her to learn to self sooth. And honestly just because she’s awake doesn’t mean I need to be as well. If she’s safe in her crib then 10-20 minutes as long as she isn’t super upset is good. It gives us both time to wake up and prepare for the day. Most importantly it also means bathroom time can be alone time.

Tab bit of extra advice plays a part in pregnancy…. Try hard to think of the what If goods more than the what If bads. If all you think about is miscarriage, emergency situations, a sick baby, anything that could make labor “bad” will cause so much unneeded stress and that isn’t good for anyone. If you focus on all the great things heading your way the nicer of an experience you will have! Plus who’s to say you can’t have an amazing experience? So why not starting off thinking of the best?

Talk soon,

Marena

Very Excited to Tell You…. 

I had my daughter!!!! 

On March 9 (2 days before her planned induction) I had my daughter. She was born 4 pounds and 5 ounces! That just 2 ounces more than me at birth and half my husband at birth (he was 8 pounds 5 ounces). 

I had pre labor signs about 2 weeks prior (if you remember from my weekly pregnancy updates). Then the Saturday before she came they REALLY picked up. They actually picked up so much I made my husband getvthe car seat ready. I was sure she wouldn’t make it to the following Saturday. (Guess I was right. All I really wanted was my momma to make it here the next day before my daughter came. Thank goodness my mom got here first). Then Wednesday came and by 4pm labor had really started. 

My mom and I went with a friend of mine to the San Diego zoo for 2 hours that morning. I was feeling great. But by lunch I desperately felt the need to nap. So we went home and I got a relaxing nap in! Then we decided to drive to La Jolla and see the seals. By 4pm (as we’re driving) I started to not feel good. My mom stopes twice on the 20 minute drive so I could use the bathroom. We stayed a short time then drove back home. By 7pm I was throwing up and contractions really started to pick up. Every 10 minutes. By 9pm I called my doctor and he told me to make a choice come in right then or wait 2 hours and come in. I’m not one who likes to come in to the office/ER and have it turn out to be nothing. So I stayed home 2 more hours. Then we headed in where they said I was only dismayed to a .5 and I’m sure my mouth dropped because I was sure I had to of  been more dilated. In the end baby girl was in some distress so they went ahead and admit me until shift change where the new team would decide. 

Fast forward 6ish hours. My doctor comes in not only did he let me get food (I had nothing in me since 11am the day before) he also was very sure she’d be out within the next 12-24 hours. He also informed me he wasn’t on call that day or night but he gave me 100% reassurance that both doctors on are amazing and I could trust them to take great care of me. (And thank goodness he was right because it definitely helped me stay calm).

Anyways through the day they let me try to progress naturally all while monitoring baby girl. By 4 pm at shift change they started the induction meds (pitocin) to help me progress. They also did a catheter and man was I miserable for that. Shortly after I also got my epidural (I mandatorily had to get one due to my heart). I was very proud of myself I had very little meds and I only pushed the button for extra 2 times. But we found after the fact it wasn’t working so the doc came in and manually inserted just a little more about 30 minutes before I started to push. It helped take the initial edge off but let me tell you it still was a lot of pain and pressure and I felt it all. But I wouldn’t change that for the world because I wanted to be as close to drug less as possible. 

The doc came in told me it’d be probably 2 hours before she would be ready to be delivered. He no more walked out of the room I had a contraction and just knew she was ready to come out. The nurse didn’t really believe right away. The next contraction came and if I wasn’t sure she was ready before I knew she was this time. The nurse stayed with me (watching my daughters head start to crown) while my mom stuck her head out the door and asked the doc to come back in. He does right away looked at me and said “yup that’s her head let’s get this party going” I laughed they helped me get comfortable and away we went. I pushed for 3 cycles of 3 (push breath push breath push breath break do it again). I didn’t push for anything more than 10 minutes (that includes pushing my daughter and the placenta out).

Unfortunately though my best friend and mother in law did not make it in time to see her be birthed. But for me I was very happy just having my mom and my husband with me. I wasn’t entirely sure I wanted anyone else with me as when I’m in pain or doing something stressful the more people around the more nervous I get. And I love my best friend and mother in law but I knew I wouldn’t be as calm if they were there. However I knew how much they wanted to be a part of this so I was willing to put my concerns aside to allow them this experience. I think in the end God knew what I really needed and he allowed me to have the perfect experience. And it really was perfect because aside from not having MY doctor all my birthing preferences were upheld and I never had to make a decision that didn’t go off the path of what I already pre decided I wanted. (Granted I do need to point out I didn’t write my plan down and I was willing to go with the flow and trust my doctors if needed and trust my husband to make decisions that I would want if I wasn’t able to).

Well I guess that’s all I have to say! I’m sure you wanted a picture long before my story. So here they are! 

Meet our beautiful daughter Kairi Mae!

They had me on oxygen on and off to help Kairi. 

The epidural being placed actually really sucked. They had someone training so it. :S 

You might not be able to tell but this was my face through most my contractions. Until the last hour before she came. 

Here is the very beginning right after they checked and told me I was dilated to a .5. I was contemplating if I was actually in labor. Turns out I was I just didn’t want to dilate. 

Well thanks for joining me through this process! Next up join me for the story of her life! Although bear with me if I’m not as quick to post. (I’m making this post as she’s now 19 days old and I still feel like I’m recovering).

Oh side note I didn’t tear and the doctor told me she was one of the easiest deliveries he’s ever made. Not to mention I was the most calm mom he’s had. I think my chest puffed up like a proud momma lion!

Talk soon,

Marena

Week 36 Pregnancy Update 

Hey everyone sorry I’m late posting this. But it’s all for good reason. My baby girl decided to make her arrival!!!!

Wow 36 weeks already! Baby girl should roughly be 18.7 inches and 5 pounds 6 ounces. 
This week I’ve started to have tons of cramping and discomfort in my back. It’s actually hard to move without complaining. If it weren’t for the fact I know I should get up and move around I’d stay in bed watching tv. :/ This week I’ve craved tons of food but by the time it’s made I throw up or just simply no longer want food. Same goes for drinking water or any fluid. It’s hard to keep anything down. 

Yay my mom arrived! I’m so excited she is here and we can finish preparing for baby girl! While she is here we purchased a few last minute items like snacks for labor and baby essentials for a bath. (A cute runner ducky that tells the temp of the water. A must have in my opinion). While my mom is here we also went to the San Diego Zoo with a friend of mine and her kids! I never thought I’d enjoy being in the fresh (zoo) air! I felt so relaxed and I truly enjoyed my time. (Maybe it was the company I was with or the fact my body knew baby girl was on her way out. Or maybe both).

That’s right baby girl was on her way! That’s why my 36 week update is roughly 3 weeks late! I had my daughter the last day of 36 weeks. Pre labor as we found out probably started Saturday (based on my symptoms) but true labor started Wednesday evening and by Thursday night I had my sweet baby girl! She didn’t want to wait till my planned induction Saturday. 😂

I’ll share the events leading up to and the during and after of her birth in another post when I “officially” announce her! But that might be another day or so. She about 3 weeks old and I’m still finding only small amounts of time to do something that isn’t eat, sleep, take care of her , or heck take care of my husband. 😂 Granted I have my mom here till baby girl is 2 months old and she’s taking care of a lot of things to help me out. But like I said there is still a lot I’m doing!

Talk soon,

Marena

P.s. Here’s a sneak of our little family!

35 Week Pregnancy Update 

Just two more weeks till baby!!!!

Baby girl is the size of a pineapple. 18.1 inches and 5.07 ounces!


I had an NST this week at the doctors. She wasn’t very active so they made me do an ultrasound. The ultrasound showed she’s doing well. My doctor thinks she might just be at a point where she doesn’t want to move around to much anymore. Other than that he says she looks great and she’s still head down!

This week I’ve had all the same symptoms. Heartburn, back aches, itchy body. This weeks contractions have started picking up but not very bad. I do find I need to rest after a while. I’m still on light activity so I guess that explains why they’ve picked up again. I’m not really following the light activity rule I was put on. Shhhhh don’t tell my doctor. But like I said it’s pretty much the same old same old. 

I’m still very much into subway, Gatorade, and chips and salsa. Staple in my house!!!! This week I’ve also gotten back into really wanting red meat. So hamburgers or hamburger helper is still a regular occurrence in our house! I’ve also eaten a lot of chocolate chip chewy granola bars. I try to eat one every time I take a bath and every night before bed. Not to meantion every time I feel hungry but can’t decide what to eat. (Okay and some times I eat them when I’m bored). I think it’s how I’ve been able to gain weight. 

I can say if I buy the large 2 gallon sized jugs of Gatorade I find I drink more. I’ve been buying two and they last a week. I also fill my glasses with tons of ice. I also drink other things like water and juice but the Gatorade has been the best way for me to get fluids in. Blue and orange!!!!

Oh! Did I mention I’ve finally gained weight? Like traceable weight gain that my doctor can even track! Well I have! Yay! This week at the doctors I weighed 113.6 pounds. So it’s only a 3 pound weight gain but it’s still a gain. I’ve been so excited. I had been shifting between 109 and 111 but now I shift between 113 and 115. 113 being the most common. 

I only have two weeks till I’m induced and my goal is to weight 116-118 pounds going into my induction! Might be a little high but it puts me closer to the 20-25 pound weight gain my doctor originally wanted. Plus it’ll help baby girl gain some weight. My doctor did say because I’m able to hold a steady weight (he said this when I was holding at 111) it means baby is getting everything she needs. It was me however that was suffering a little because she was taking and leaving me with very little.

Oh this week we also did an ultrasound and got a few pictures!


We got a picture of her lady parts, cute little kissy lips, and hair! Maybe all that hair is what’s causing this heartburn?

This week we also had a maternity photo shoot! (I did post them earlier this week but here are my favorite ones!)


How was your week 35? 

Anything new you experienced?

Did you have a baby with hair? And give you tons of heartburn? (Doctors say they think there is a connection between the two).

Talk soon,

Marena